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What To Do When You’re Brushed Off at Strategy Meetings

Michelle Flemmings, MD, advises that we shouldn't allow others' behavior to detract from how we are are perceived, or how we feel and think about ourselves.

October 23, 2021

You’re at all the strategy meetings.

Your ideas are well thought out and destined for success.

And yet, you’re getting brushed off or ignored by the decision makers.

Worse, your ideas when reiterated by a coworker are applauded, the product of innovative genius and must be implemented immediately.

WTF?!?!?!?🤬

 

Your ideas when reiterated by a coworker are applauded, the product of innovative genius and must be implemented immediately. WTF?!?!?!? Click To Tweet

 

Workplace ostracism isn’t new.

Perpetually being ignored and excluded is a common bullying tactic.

Most often perpetrated by our directors or coworkers who are vying for higher status on the power chart.

 

Perpetually being ignored and excluded is a common bullying tactic. Most often perpetrated by our directors or coworkers who are vying for higher status on the power chart. Click To Tweet

 

The goal – to make us figuratively and/or literally silent and invisible.

Rather than feel defeated, hopeless, give yourself a few minutes to evaluate your situation, take a deep breath, then act. 👈🏾

Most important is a face to face with the person who is trying to isolate and marginalize you.

Yes! You have to call them on it. 👈🏾

 

Rather than feel defeated, hopeless, give yourself a few minutes to evaluate your situation, take a deep breath, then act. 👈🏾

 

This is best delivered cold and done immediately after the occurrence, preferably at the meeting. I recommend that you stand and deliver your message in a calm tone saying something like this…

“Thank you for repeating the idea I just presented. I’m glad to see that my words didn’t fall on deaf ears.”

Trust me, they and everyone else at the table will get the point.

Try not to make any assumptions as to why you are being treated in this manner. 👈🏾

 

Try not to make any assumptions as to why you are being treated in this manner.

 

The reason for their behavior is theirs to deal with, our job is not to allow their behavior to detract from how we are are perceived or how we feel and think about ourselves. 👈🏾

Instead, let it motivate you to continue to stand up and speak up at every opportunity.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react.

 

Every misstep, every slight or snub is an opportunity to learn.

What do you learn from being ostracized or bullied?

  • To be resilient.
  • To be resourceful.
  • To be relentless.And to always take advantage of opportunities to showcase your strengths and brilliance.

So important because those who have the power to elevate you are always watching.

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  1. No one would acknowledge me unless I go to them and then they are stand of Ish, including my female manager. I say female because I’ve never been treated like this by males.

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