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The Beautiful Music of Balance

The Beautiful Music of Balance

Dawn L Baker MD, MS challenges us to think of work-life balance as an orchestra, where all the instruments represent your different roles in life.

I write, speak, and coach about work-life balance. Whenever I’m interviewed, I get asked the question, “How do you define ‘balance’?” It’s a nebulous term that sometimes gets a bad rep. “There’s no such thing as work-life balance,” naysayers will declare.

Balance conjures up lots of metaphors and imagery – the legal scales, the teeter-totter, the spinning of plates. In my many discussions of its meaning, I realized my favorite analogy for balance: an orchestra.

 

Balance conjures up lots of metaphors and imagery - the legal scales, the teeter-totter, the spinning of plates. In my many discussions of its meaning, I realized my favorite analogy for balance: an orchestra. Click To Tweet

 

Orchestral music has a special place in my heart. Starting at age 12, I played the cello with fairly serious intensity. I participated in the city youth symphony. I played in the stage pit for high school musicals. I gigged in quartets. I competed in regional competitions and summer concert exhibitions (the equivalent of state championships in sports).

The cello was my first foray into balancing roles in my own life – other than “kid”, “daughter”, “sister”, etc. It was my main hobby in addition to playing the piano, and I had to learn how much time I could dedicate to practice and improvement while also keeping up with school and friends. When high school started, I had the option to branch out into sports. But the seats in my personal orchestra were already full; I never joined any of the teams. After considering the addition of “athlete” to my roles in life at that young age, I decided I wanted to keep it simple.

If balance is an orchestra, you are the conductor. The different instrument sections represent the multiple roles you play in your life. Those roles might be:

  • parent
  • child
  • spouse
  • friend
  • doctor
  • teacher
  • student
  • athlete
  • artist

In a classical music composition, there are times when all the instruments are playing together. However, they’re never playing at the same volume, with the same intensity, at the same time. This would sound grating to the ears. Many people believe balance means equal distribution of all roles and responsibilities at one time, but this is not sustainable nor pleasurable.

At other times, specific instruments have solos. During the solos, other instruments might be playing very softly in the background, providing supportive tones. Some instruments will be completely silent; this is appropriately called “resting.” The players of those instruments are quietly following along with the music, waiting for their turn to contribute.

When’s the last time you consciously put one of your roles on the back burner to completely “rest”? The reality is that some instruments in your personal orchestra will never get to rest – like the role of parent or child. But at times, others are going to need to be silent. I’ve rested the student in me when I had cancer during residency and was forced to take sick leave. Man, was it hard to silence that instrument – always wanting to play and contribute and be productive. I’ve rested the athlete in me when I went through in vitro fertilization – another difficult role to keep quiet when you’re used to continuously reaching for goals. And I’ve rested the doctor in me when I’ve been a patient myself.

Some people prefer the music of a full-blown symphony, replete with brass, woodwinds, and percussion. I have a friend and mentor who always thrives when she has lots of things on her plate. She derives great energy from it. Others (like me) prefer a simpler string ensemble. Neither of these instrumental groups makes more beautiful music than the other. just like balance, the beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

What are the current instruments in your orchestra of balance?

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