I Got Multiple 1 Star Reviews as a Doctor. So I Did This.
What do you do when you have multiple bad reviews? What if they’re all written by one patient? An anonymous confession.
What do you do when you have multiple bad reviews? What if they’re all written by one patient? An anonymous confession.
Your doctor sacrifices a lot for you, but they are human and struggling, too.
Please don’t scream at me, I want to keep you safe. An anonymous story.
An anonymous post, sent in to candidly ask whether degrees are meaningless in today’s world. Are they a free-for-all, with titles getting tossed around and grabbed frantically, as if Oprah’s giving them out?
An anonymous rant about using others to amplify our own messages, while online. Good or bad? You decide.
I’m beginning to feel like the medical community is getting taken advantage of from every angle possible. A commentary on physician “social” circles.
To the haters of group admins, give peace a chance. Cut them some slack as they tackle their difficult job,
An anonymous author asks whether we getting honest recommendations in our favorite physician Facebook group.
![I was engaged in a heated conversation the other day, right in the SoMeDocs Facebook group, when my eyes were opened wide. It was an anonymous post, referring not only to the rise of physician communities, but also to the questionable (if not immoral) tactics used by so-called leaders of this space. In the discussion, the phrase 'MLM' was brought up, in reference to the groups. I was shocked. Never before had I thought of it in this way. But the more I mulled it over, and let it soak in, the more I realized this is exactly part of what's happening with our groups, which I once believed were effectively organizing online. I see so many disjointed communities of physicians, quite honestly, each one claiming they're focused on one thing or another. While some of them are respectable, others are taking complete advantage of the naivete of my physician colleagues and me. Things have been taken to the next level and I'm wondering when the bubble will burst. There are no clear cut rules to most of these groups and it seems that, if there are, they are not being enforced for everyone in the same way. For example, my friend tried posting a business tip the other day, in a physician business group that was there for literally physicians interested in business. It was something she had picked up along the way, in an article that was business-focused. Not only was her post erased, but she was immediately kicked out, with no warning or explanation. I spoke to her. She was shaken up. It wasn't her post being taken down that bothered her so much. She realized she may have broken a rule. It was getting kicked out without warning. She felt like an outlaw, when she never actually intended to be one. [bctt tweet="It was getting kicked out without warning. She felt like an outlaw, when she never actually intended to be one." username="SoMeDocs"] Another friend of mine, a physician, got kicked out of a different group, and was told that the admin just "didn't have time" to deal with her. She had been working hard to advocate for physicians, but because the admin wasn't involved financially with her effort, my friend's comments didn't sit well (with admin). Apparently, the comments had given my friend, and her effort, too much attention, and admin didn't like that. Another friend from that same group saw several posts talking about their products and books. She immediately posted about her own creation, a product mean to help the physicians in that very group, only to get immediately shot down because you can't "self-promote". I dove deeper into this issue. Asked around. How can one person self-promote, while another person get shot down? There had to be a clear and straightforward answer. There was. Do you know what an affiliate is? The answer is in that simple little word. Remember those times when an admin of a FB group drops a post about a conference and says they are an affiliate? It means that they make money every time we purchase a ticket. They don't have to vet the conference in any way. But they typically promote it heavily, and often even recommend it. Audiences don't necessarily always know that this is a paid relationship and trust these admins. Thus, the admins become "influencers", influencing their unsuspecting colleagues, but in non-transparent ways. Here's the worst part: the heaviest promotion goes to the highest bidder. The business that pays an admin the most (either the largest chunk of each signup, or the highest dollar value) typically gets the most "influence" associated with them. Meaning, the admin will work their hardest to promote them. This would typically be fine, because at the surface, it is just capitalism playing out at its best. But here's why it isn't. It drives the cost of these services up. When we see coaches, for example, selling their amazing, one-of-a-kind, limited time offerings, for upwards of $10,000 for services that aren't necessarily worthy of that amount, we need to think through why admins are so adamant that we pay for them. I've seen admins pushing these programs, ad nauseam. It is not lost on me that a large sum of monies is being paid to the person who is convincing others to enroll. Again, "influencing" comes into play. [bctt tweet="When we see coaches selling their amazing, 1-of-a-kind, limited time offerings, for upwards of $10,000 for services that aren't necessarily worth that amount, we need to think through why admins r so adamant we pay for them." username="SoMeDocs"] I'm not sure how we solve this. But it begins with awareness, like everything else happening right now, in medicine, where our colleagues' vulnerability is being taken advantage of. We need to have conversations. Ask ourselves what we are being sold, and who is doing the selling. We need to call out leaders who are erasing our colleague's comments and, quite frankly, discouraging democratic discourse. It is not a place we want to head into, as a field. My friend (the one who was "self-promoting") chose not to pay the affiliate, in the end. She decided she didn't want to support the admin of the group in question because she didn't believe in her tactics, even if it meant that the physicians who are in the group, who believe they're in a space where open discussion and sharing is welcomed, and where they can get straight answers to their questions, won't actually get to see her product. It meant she was hurting her potential for future success. But she was ok with that and I look up to her for that. But the whole thing is all just a shame.](https://doctorsonsocialmedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/03/img_4351.jpg)
Just when you thought you were part of an innocent physician discussion group, you realize you’re actually not aware of whether or not you’re being manipulated. The harsh truths of today’s physician groups.
What happens when you’re in a leadership position but your colleagues are disrespectful?
With love, a seriously disturbed member of our physician community, coming at you all with a concern.
Favors are becoming increasingly common online. When will we learn this in a space where we don’t actually know each other and normalize saying no?
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